Guiding Children

Children are gifted in many areas. They share artistic talents, feel love and empathy for others and have intuitive natures. They are sensitive to the energy that they are surrounded with and care must be taken to make sure that they have harmonious surroundings. The human subconscious is naturally aware and will pick up on the negative thoughts and feelings of others. Children are extremely intuitive and will sense these feelings as their own. They will cry with others as they are unable to distinguish between their own and another’s feelings or emotions. To this end, parents need to be aware of their own feelings when they are around children and they need to gently guide a child to understand that the emotions are not directed at them or are a result of something they have done. Children can empathize with others and are often able to soothe another instinctively. They care about the emotional stability of people around them.

Many children who are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD are often more intelligent and therefore easily bored at school.  Some children are very stressed before birth and may display anger or tantrums. These need to be dealt with in a loving, firm manner. Consistent kind words will pay off in the end. Sometimes, an unwanted baby will sense this before birth and these children feel threatened by correction and sense it as an affront. They need to be guided in a loving manner so that they understand that the correction is for their benefit.

Some children can choose at a young age what they want to become. They have an intrinsic knowledge of “right” and “wrong”. They can focus on their goals but may need some gentle nudging about daily chores. Their ability to dream and their positive attitude is what makes parents watch in amazement. Guide them by providing them with opportunities to develop the skills they need to reach their dreams. Honour their vision.

A baby can mimic the sounds of “I love you” to a mother at three months old. Parents who talk consistently to their children will witness their early speech development, especially in girls. Be careful of how you speak to children up to a year. Their subconscious will hear “touch it” when you say “Don’t touch it.” It is better to just say, “No!” in a firm voice. The subconscious does not comprehend the words “don’t” and “doesn’t”. Try to give positive instructions so that they feel rewarded by having the ability to do something. They really want to just please parents.

When a child is between one and two years of age, they enjoy experiencing their world and are filled with curiosity. Provide them with situations so that they can explore as much as possible. Toilet training usually begins after fifteen months of age as that is when they have started to develop some control of their bodily functions. It must be noted that each child will progress as individuals in this regard. Lots of positive reinforcement and a sense of humour will help this stage along.

The secret to raising children is to have fun with them. Find out about their characters and their needs and wants. Encourage them with love and gentle guidance in the form of softly spoken praises. When you embrace the natural, bubbling joy of your child, you will remember how to look at life. You may see the world in a more positive light, through your children’s eyes.

As a child grows, they need to become more independent. They need to appreciate that there are certain realistic boundaries which are there to protect them from harm. They also need to develop the confidence to discover and explore their world. Parents who are involved with their children will be aware of their growth and knowledge. Children grow in their own unique ways and they will discover particular talents and fields of interest. Always try to acknowledge their characters and individuality as you may not know what it is that they have come into your life to teach you!

Alarms are sounded when a child does not appear to be thriving. Children who are underweight, pale, lethargic or seem too active will need some attention. In Africa there are many types of parasitic infestations and often malnutrition. Even children who seem to “have it all” so to speak, can have malnutrition because they have access to too many sugary and artificially flavoured food sources. Many children can benefit from a healthy change in diet and from drinking much more water throughout the day.

In THE BRAIN TRAIN at Yveher, children are taught skills to keep focus and centre themselves. In this way, they are equipped to deal with any situation in life from tests to trauma. Children are highly capable of learning skills for their own benefit.

The source of inspiration and motivation for each child should be their own. They should not have to just work to please a parent or ever be made to be responsible for a parent’s happiness or wellbeing. Healthy children can discover how to take accountability for their actions. No discipline needs to be physically applied. Find out your child’s values (what makes them tick) and you will be able to align their behaviour with the values. They will automatically adjust to achieving a goal that is meaningful to them.

To find out more about how to discover your child’s values, please go to the Contact page and send an email.

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